BEFORE YOU SAY 'I DO' :

So many marriages are full of regrets and unfulfillment today. If you ask most married people if they are given a second chance would they marry the same person? If they are to answer you sincerely most of them will say NO. Single friends, please delete the fantasies in your heart about marriage. Marriage is great and lovely but you cannot enjoy the dividends if you think the way the average single thinks. You can only enjoy the God ordained institution by laying a solid foundation. Take note of the following 1. Get genuinely born again and expose your self more to the word and the Spirit of God so that you can grow into maturity: If the two partners are spiritually matured, unnecessary frictions will be eliminated. So many married people find it difficult to reconcile differences because of immaturity.It is not a matter of age but grace and grace comes from your submission to God's word. 2. Get your divine mandate clearly: God has work for you on earth. It does not necessarily mean establishing a church or becoming a preacher. Discover purpose before marriage. I have discovered that your assignment to a large extent will assist you in knowing God's will in marriage. 3. De congest your heart of lust: Most turbulent marriages were founded on lust and not love. So many brothers in our campuses have got their hearts flooded with lust because of the erroneous marriage seminars that centres on external qualities. 4. Don't get involved with random sampling while trying to get a relationship: Let it never be that a brother or sister will say you broke their hearts. It has far reaching consequences. Trust God to lead you to the one He prepared for you. Life is not random sampling. If you are confused don't go ahead until you get divine approval. 4. DON'T START A RELATIONSHIP(courtship) IF YOU WILL NOT BE READY FOR MARRIAGE IN AT MOST TWO YEARS TIME: Long courtship does not necessarily translate into a blissful marriage. I was told of a catastrophic marriage that had 14 years courtship. Most relationships that started on campus failed. You don't need to be in haste. Marriage is not all there is about life. There is time for everything. So many singles could not keep a pure courtship because of the length of the courtship.(I can give you more insight on this if you contact me). HE THAT BELIEVETH SHALL NOT MAKE HASTE ISAIAH 28: 16 5. FORNICATION SHOULD NOT BE TOLERATED IF YOUR MARRIAGE IS TO BE BLISSFUL: Any man that cannot wait for sex till marriage may end up an adulterer. Keep your body under subjection. TO BE CONTINUED